Some things will never change from when you’re a little kid to when you become an adult. One such example is having to make everything into a competition. The thing that frustrates me the most is the fact that when you tell people something, they seem to turn the tables back to themselves. Rather than listening and understanding what you have to say, they use yours as a “baseline” to what their life is like. For instance, if you tell somehow how stressed out you are at school, some go “Well I have this and this to do. And this. AND I had less sleep than you. AND…” and the list can go on and on. I’m not quite sure what they’re trying to accomplish. Perhaps they think that by comparing that person’s situation to theirs, they’re trying to make that person feel better… well, it doesn’t. It just seems like they’re undermining whatever that person had to say without truly reflecting on the words.
And then there’s social inclusion. No matter where you are, having social cliques is inevitable. It’s something that happens so naturally without even consciously being aware of it. I remember when I was a kid, people would be so direct and say “You can’t be in our group” because they don’t understand the social implications of how those words can hurt another kid. Or even with the little non-verbal acts that people portray. And you would think that after a couple years of school and what not, people would be more mature and socially aware of their words. But unfortunately, that doesn’t necessarily happen.
In the end, it all goes back to people being inconsiderate.