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As children, we were reliant on our parents to tell us right from wrong, good and bad. To help us feel better when we were sick, and to pull that band-aid off when we were too afraid to do it ourselves. And as we get older, the onus was on us, as growing adults, to rely more on ourselves.

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There’s that saying- birds of a feather flock together. I think this is especially true for girls. I never noticed until someone made a comment about how girls do almost everything together, even going to the washroom. And yes, it is quite true. Because I was one of them. Throughout High School and the first two years of University, I was very reliant on my friends. They were the ones I studied with, laughed with, cried with, and joked with. I think it came to the point where I was becoming -too- reliant on them, and perhaps slightly unhealthy. I decided that perhaps it was time to start becoming a little independent, and so in my last two years of University, I took separate classes from my friends. It ultimately paid off because I needed to count on myself, and I succeeded.

I eventually moved away from home to go to a different University, and it forced me to really take care of myself, independently. Yet at the same time, I still relied on certain people like my friends. I relied so much on my friends to give me that support and happiness, and when I moved away, the aspects of talking to friends that once used to be done so naturally and easy, slowly became more of a responsibility amidst the hectic thing we called life.

It’s amazing how words can affect the route to which a conversation can envelope. If you don’t ask the right question, you might not get that anticipated response. But when it comes to friendships, do I need to rely on others to ‘ask the right question’ for me to truly speak what is on my mind?

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